Renewing relationships: How to keep the spark alive
Sex is fun, but you grow to understand that life doesn’t leave you enough time for intercourse three times a day. Plus you’re old, tired and they can’t always get it up.
It’s okay not to have sex as much as you used to, it happens in a longterm relationship. It does not mean your partner loves you any less, it’s natural and you will probably end up feeling the same way too. The key to keeping the spark alive in a long-term relationship is to keep an open mind and always be open to trying new things, both sexual and nonsexual. Being in a long-term relationship is already a big responsibility but keeping it interesting is another story. According to Dr. Debby Herbenick, an American research scientist and author of “Because It Feels Good”, having morning sex at least once a week is scientifically proven to keep excitement in a relationship as well as being a great start to your day. Dedicating a day to make your partner’s fantasies become reality can spice up a Friday night. Having sex outside of the bedroom is also a risqué way to create excitement in your sex life. Having sex with your partner is a stress reliever and a great way to bond and feel reunited.
Have special weekly nights that are dedicated to solely you and your partner, like date night followed by fantasy sex. Create fun situations. Go back to the drawing board and start again. No, I don’t mean find a new partner, but recreate it instead. You can change up the situation and make it more interesting. Go to a bar, or a park, a library, anywhere. Enter the chosen location on your own and pretend as if you are meeting for the first time. This will be an interesting game to play because it’s “new” and the biggest key to keeping things interesting is by doing new things and adapting to positive changes. Remind yourselves what you like about each other, physically and mentally.
Refresh and renew. At the end of the day, it’s all about the effort. It’s easy to keep things new and interesting as long as you prioritize your relationship and show each other that it’s still relevant and exciting. This journal has been used and the pages aren’t as pretty as they used to be, it contains a lot of stains, a couple of ripped pages but at least it developed its own character. Both of your objectives are to give each other the most honest version of you there is and still love every bit of it.
But really, it’s not an objective, it kind of just happens when you love someone.