Long Distance Love: Keep the spark going from afar
One of the more important elements
in any strong relationship is
the physical connection that you feel
with one another. You know, that
spark. The chemistry. Sex.
This is a tricky topic, especially for those in long distance relationships, but it is absolutely one that is worth talking about with your partner. In long distance relationships, it can be easy to fall into the "out of sight, out of mind" mentality where you think it will be easier if you just don't talk about it. This is a mistake, though, as inevitably one (if not both) of you will end up feeling unwanted and hurt.
Although you obviously can't keep the physical side of things going when you are apart from one another, here are some tips for how you can keep the spark alive:
- Don't push the subject out of your mind, or avoid it in conversation. Sure, you're missing a big part of your relationship, but you should keep communication about it going anyway. If one (or both) of you is struggling with this particular aspect of being in a long distance relationship, it is important to make sure that you know exactly how your significant other is feeling. Just knowing how the other person feels will keep the two of you feeling connected.
- Have a little sexy conversation. Okay, I am not suggesting that you get into XXX-rated phone calls with your significant other (unless that's your kind of thing) but there are little ways you can spice up conversations. Try sending sweet but sexy text messages like "I miss you ;)", "I want you" or, if you're feeling particularly adventurous, talk about what you want to do when you're together again.
- Don't let feelings of shyness or awkwardness get the best of you. If you've never sent sexy texts or had mildly dirty phone calls before, it can feel a little weird. If you just remember how comfortable you are when you're together, it will be easy to let go of your inhibitions and keep that connection strong.
Keeping the sexual chemistry going when you are faced with periods of separation, particularly if they are on the long side, is super important in keeping your relationship strong. If you make the effort to keep the spark alive when you're apart, you will not only feel more connected to each other when you're apart, but when you do get to see each other again, it will be easier to pick up where you left off.
Stay tuned next week for tips on how to do holidays long distance style.
This is a tricky topic, especially for those in long distance relationships, but it is absolutely one that is worth talking about with your partner. In long distance relationships, it can be easy to fall into the "out of sight, out of mind" mentality where you think it will be easier if you just don't talk about it. This is a mistake, though, as inevitably one (if not both) of you will end up feeling unwanted and hurt.
Although you obviously can't keep the physical side of things going when you are apart from one another, here are some tips for how you can keep the spark alive:
- Don't push the subject out of your mind, or avoid it in conversation. Sure, you're missing a big part of your relationship, but you should keep communication about it going anyway. If one (or both) of you is struggling with this particular aspect of being in a long distance relationship, it is important to make sure that you know exactly how your significant other is feeling. Just knowing how the other person feels will keep the two of you feeling connected.
- Have a little sexy conversation. Okay, I am not suggesting that you get into XXX-rated phone calls with your significant other (unless that's your kind of thing) but there are little ways you can spice up conversations. Try sending sweet but sexy text messages like "I miss you ;)", "I want you" or, if you're feeling particularly adventurous, talk about what you want to do when you're together again.
- Don't let feelings of shyness or awkwardness get the best of you. If you've never sent sexy texts or had mildly dirty phone calls before, it can feel a little weird. If you just remember how comfortable you are when you're together, it will be easy to let go of your inhibitions and keep that connection strong.
Keeping the sexual chemistry going when you are faced with periods of separation, particularly if they are on the long side, is super important in keeping your relationship strong. If you make the effort to keep the spark alive when you're apart, you will not only feel more connected to each other when you're apart, but when you do get to see each other again, it will be easier to pick up where you left off.
Stay tuned next week for tips on how to do holidays long distance style.
