Love, Lust and Lies: Let's talk double standards
We live in a world guided by
double standards. Not only have
we all been victims of double standards
but we all have also been
guilty of holding others to them.
Men and women are continuously
casualties of society's ridiculous
norms, most of which belittle
women and revere men in relationships.
Men are admired, women are cougars. Men date younger women all the time, and they are praised by others for their ability to still seduce gorgeous women while in their 40s. Women, on the other hand, date a younger man and that is enough to turn heads from miles around. Not only are they judged, society has named these women cougars! Cougars are predators that pursue their prey (in this case young men) and eat them to survive. Not to mention cougars aren't even a dominant predator like jaguars or lions, they are basically huge cats — talk about insulting. Why is it acceptable for men to want someone younger, while women should feel ashamed, even though older women look younger than their male counterparts?
Let's not forget the infamous "women are crazy." It seems that no matter what a girl does, most of the time her actions are considered insane. If she ever does something out of line, it's attributed to the fact that all girls are "crazy" — but they can't help it, it's genetic. On the other hand, a guy's actions are always justified as concern or that he really loves you, and are sometimes even deemed romantic. It's never because he is out of his mind. For instance, a girl questions a guy about what he is doing, she is seen as crazy, but a guy who does the same thing is looked at as a caring boyfriend. Not only do men see girls as crazy, but it has gotten to the point where we ourselves look at our own actions as crazy, even when they aren't. We begin to second- guess ourselves because of what men have put into our heads. Now that is insane.
Men are whipped, women are needy. If a girl wants to spend a lot of time with her boyfriend, she is often looked at as needy or clingy, neither of which are flattering qualities. No girl wants to be called "clingy" because it scares men as much as the words "periods" and "tampons" do! The reason you are in a relationship is because you want to spend time with them; that shouldn't have a negative connotation. However, if a guy wants to spend most of his time with his girlfriend, he is considered "whipped," inevitably making it the girl's fault because she controls the guy, so he has no say in what he does. It's funny how he would never be considered needy or clingy, though; if he wants to spend time with his girlfriend, it's because he has no control over his actions.
Men are praised, women are easy. Guys who sleep around are glorified by other men. If a guy meets a girl at the bar and brings her home, the next morning the guy high-fives his friends and calls the girl he just slept with a slut. I can't even remember how many times I have heard guys tell me stories similar to that. How is it that the guy is "the man" but the girl is easy? Guys are scared of girls who have a lot of experience in the bedroom. I know guys who have been with over 20 girls, but have told me they would never go for a girl who has been with over 10 guys because that's "dirty." That doesn't make any sense. How could she be considered "dirty" when you have been with more than twice that amount? It's plain and simple: guys get all the glory the more they score, and when girls do the same, they are considered whores.
It's always the guy's fault. There is one double standard that doesn't glorify men, if anything it embarrasses men, and that is in the bedroom. If a guy has a difficult time performing, we automatically blame him. He clearly has some issues in the bedroom, or some medical problems and should consider something like Viagra. If a girl can't "enjoy it," it's because the guy doesn't know what he is doing, or he isn't that good. It's never the girl's fault, even though in reality it can be.
It's hard to ignore these double standards along with the many others that are so prominent in our society. Unfortunately, this makes it hard for us to be considered equals in a relationship. Until the world finally understands that rules of men and women should apply equally, guys will continue to get "gold stars" for their actions, while women will continue to be ridiculed for theirs.
Men are admired, women are cougars. Men date younger women all the time, and they are praised by others for their ability to still seduce gorgeous women while in their 40s. Women, on the other hand, date a younger man and that is enough to turn heads from miles around. Not only are they judged, society has named these women cougars! Cougars are predators that pursue their prey (in this case young men) and eat them to survive. Not to mention cougars aren't even a dominant predator like jaguars or lions, they are basically huge cats — talk about insulting. Why is it acceptable for men to want someone younger, while women should feel ashamed, even though older women look younger than their male counterparts?
Let's not forget the infamous "women are crazy." It seems that no matter what a girl does, most of the time her actions are considered insane. If she ever does something out of line, it's attributed to the fact that all girls are "crazy" — but they can't help it, it's genetic. On the other hand, a guy's actions are always justified as concern or that he really loves you, and are sometimes even deemed romantic. It's never because he is out of his mind. For instance, a girl questions a guy about what he is doing, she is seen as crazy, but a guy who does the same thing is looked at as a caring boyfriend. Not only do men see girls as crazy, but it has gotten to the point where we ourselves look at our own actions as crazy, even when they aren't. We begin to second- guess ourselves because of what men have put into our heads. Now that is insane.
Men are whipped, women are needy. If a girl wants to spend a lot of time with her boyfriend, she is often looked at as needy or clingy, neither of which are flattering qualities. No girl wants to be called "clingy" because it scares men as much as the words "periods" and "tampons" do! The reason you are in a relationship is because you want to spend time with them; that shouldn't have a negative connotation. However, if a guy wants to spend most of his time with his girlfriend, he is considered "whipped," inevitably making it the girl's fault because she controls the guy, so he has no say in what he does. It's funny how he would never be considered needy or clingy, though; if he wants to spend time with his girlfriend, it's because he has no control over his actions.
Men are praised, women are easy. Guys who sleep around are glorified by other men. If a guy meets a girl at the bar and brings her home, the next morning the guy high-fives his friends and calls the girl he just slept with a slut. I can't even remember how many times I have heard guys tell me stories similar to that. How is it that the guy is "the man" but the girl is easy? Guys are scared of girls who have a lot of experience in the bedroom. I know guys who have been with over 20 girls, but have told me they would never go for a girl who has been with over 10 guys because that's "dirty." That doesn't make any sense. How could she be considered "dirty" when you have been with more than twice that amount? It's plain and simple: guys get all the glory the more they score, and when girls do the same, they are considered whores.
It's always the guy's fault. There is one double standard that doesn't glorify men, if anything it embarrasses men, and that is in the bedroom. If a guy has a difficult time performing, we automatically blame him. He clearly has some issues in the bedroom, or some medical problems and should consider something like Viagra. If a girl can't "enjoy it," it's because the guy doesn't know what he is doing, or he isn't that good. It's never the girl's fault, even though in reality it can be.
It's hard to ignore these double standards along with the many others that are so prominent in our society. Unfortunately, this makes it hard for us to be considered equals in a relationship. Until the world finally understands that rules of men and women should apply equally, guys will continue to get "gold stars" for their actions, while women will continue to be ridiculed for theirs.
