New Age Gentleman: Date not returning your calls? At least she didn't call you unintelligent
A discussion I was having the other day ended on the topic of relationships, and a thought occurred; the old lesson of, “It's what's inside that counts” is a bunch of hooey.
It is true that we really don't have to justify ourselves to anybody, and we live in times where not caring what anyone thinks of us is popular. It is also fast becoming uncomfortable, as this mentality lends itself to certain disadvantages in relationships.
The “who cares” attitude and ignorance about proper mannerisms can lead to very unfavourable first impressions. And it also brings about, if you'll excuse the expression, half-assed attempts that could be vastly improved upon. Men find themselves wondering what went wrong when they finally get a phone number only to be dialing up a pizza place, or no one ever picking up on the other end. Women say how much men are jerks when they promise to call and are never heard from again. Then both sides cry out in unison, “Why can't love be upfront?”
Be careful what you wish for. What if she suddenly said to your face, “I just think you're too ugly,” or, “You're really not in my league,” or even, “What a pathetic line.” And what if the men said, “You just don't do anything to attract me,” or, “What an ugly dress.” There are other probably more crude responses, but instead we hide them behind phrases designed to end the conversation and open up an escape path. So as you read, love could be upfront but it can be pretty painful when you're on the receiving end of it.
So now with that knowledge your probably asking, “Well what in the world should I do now?” Easy — ignore that crap about being yourself. To a point, that is. We still have to be ourselves in order to show off our personalities and attract someone, but until they grow familiar and comfortable with you there is nothing wrong with doing what is expected of you. It may be more work but no one ever said love was easy. Put a little extra effort into what the other may like. If all girls loved flowers each and everyday then there would not only be a shortage of flowers but things would get pretty boring. I hope this has helped in your cause, good reader.
Sincerely,
New Age Gentleman.
Editorial opinions or comments expressed in this online edition of Interrobang newspaper reflect the views of the writer and are not those of the Interrobang or the Fanshawe Student Union. The Interrobang is published weekly by the Fanshawe Student Union at 1001 Fanshawe College Blvd., P.O. Box 7005, London, Ontario, N5Y 5R6 and distributed through the Fanshawe College community. Letters to the editor are welcome. All letters are subject to editing and should be emailed. All letters must be accompanied by contact information. Letters can also be submitted online by clicking here.
It is true that we really don't have to justify ourselves to anybody, and we live in times where not caring what anyone thinks of us is popular. It is also fast becoming uncomfortable, as this mentality lends itself to certain disadvantages in relationships.
The “who cares” attitude and ignorance about proper mannerisms can lead to very unfavourable first impressions. And it also brings about, if you'll excuse the expression, half-assed attempts that could be vastly improved upon. Men find themselves wondering what went wrong when they finally get a phone number only to be dialing up a pizza place, or no one ever picking up on the other end. Women say how much men are jerks when they promise to call and are never heard from again. Then both sides cry out in unison, “Why can't love be upfront?”
Be careful what you wish for. What if she suddenly said to your face, “I just think you're too ugly,” or, “You're really not in my league,” or even, “What a pathetic line.” And what if the men said, “You just don't do anything to attract me,” or, “What an ugly dress.” There are other probably more crude responses, but instead we hide them behind phrases designed to end the conversation and open up an escape path. So as you read, love could be upfront but it can be pretty painful when you're on the receiving end of it.
So now with that knowledge your probably asking, “Well what in the world should I do now?” Easy — ignore that crap about being yourself. To a point, that is. We still have to be ourselves in order to show off our personalities and attract someone, but until they grow familiar and comfortable with you there is nothing wrong with doing what is expected of you. It may be more work but no one ever said love was easy. Put a little extra effort into what the other may like. If all girls loved flowers each and everyday then there would not only be a shortage of flowers but things would get pretty boring. I hope this has helped in your cause, good reader.
Sincerely,
New Age Gentleman.
Editorial opinions or comments expressed in this online edition of Interrobang newspaper reflect the views of the writer and are not those of the Interrobang or the Fanshawe Student Union. The Interrobang is published weekly by the Fanshawe Student Union at 1001 Fanshawe College Blvd., P.O. Box 7005, London, Ontario, N5Y 5R6 and distributed through the Fanshawe College community. Letters to the editor are welcome. All letters are subject to editing and should be emailed. All letters must be accompanied by contact information. Letters can also be submitted online by clicking here.
