Ask the Sex Doc: More than a golden shower
Dear Sex Doc;
So, last night I was having sex with my girlfriend. She was sitting on top of me when all of a sudden a bunch of warm liquid shot onto my stomach. It didn't really smell like pee, but I think she pissed on me. It completely turned me off. I had to stop having sex with her. I think she was a little embarrassed too because we haven't talked about it yet. I've heard of girls squirting, but I don't believe it exists. Was this really just piss?
Watersports Willy @ UBCO
Dear Watersports Willy @ UBCO;
When are you and all your buddies out there going to realize that girls CAN ejaculate? Almost every time I speak of gusher orgasms in front of large groups of men I see the look of disbelief in their eyes.
Come on Watersports Willy, if she wanted to piss on you she'd most likely find a way to do that in the shower.
Experts on the topic report that every single woman is capable of ejaculating. A large study, published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior, found that 40 per cent of women report being able to shoot girl cum.
Research has also proven that the gushing liquid isn't piss. It is generally a mixture of alkaline fluid made up of prostatic acid phosphatase and glucose (like that from the male prostate gland) and three per cent urea.
And Watersports Willy, you probably thought she tinkled on you since the fluid came out of her urethra. Researchers have found that only trace amounts of ejaculate will make its way through the paraurethral ducts into the vagina and mix with her natural love juices.
It sounds like she released a lot of fluid, if you confused it with pee. If your gal is anything like her sisters in the studies, she most likely released about 300ml.
Instead of being pissed off, you should be excited. You must have turned her on enough that she had some pretty severe pelvic muscle contractions during orgasm. And, she is (or at least was at the time) comfortable and relaxed enough with you to use you as a cum rag for a change.
Watersports Willy, I would suggest you apologize to your girl for over-reacting. Tell her you were surprised by the experience and that you didn't know what happened.
Tell your gushing girl that you've read up on female ejaculation and congratulate her on this experience. She'll feel much more comfortable with you (and with releasing her juice) from this moment on.
Dear Sex Doc;
I just started seeing this guy about a month ago. I really like him and all, but I think he's kind of deformed. His foreskin is freakishly long. I haven't been with too many guys, but I know when something is off down there. It doesn't bother me during intercourse, but when I give him oral I pretty well gag on all that skin. I want to stay with him, but what can I do about his massive foreskin?
Choking on Foreskin @ UNBSJ
Dear Choking on Foreskin @ UNBSJ;
I'm not sure how long a ‘freakishly' long foreskin is, but I'm assuming his tickle trunk doesn't retract over the head of his penis when he's erect.
When most uncut guys get an erection, their foreskin moves over their glans. In fact, it is often difficult to tell if a guy is uncut when he's hard. Your guy was born with a little more trunk than most. It sounds like it works for intercourse because there's more junk to stimulate you.
But, like you mentioned Choking on Foreskin, too much casing at the end of his sausage can be a pain in the ass in the mouth. I would suggest you push the foreskin down when you are going down on your guy. Hold it in place while sucking on his knob. You can slowly move the foreskin back and forth, but don't let his macro derma dick get out of control.
I worry that you think he's deformed. Do you think he has issues with the amount of outer membrane on his member? If so, talk to him and let him know he's normal. Even better, tell him that all that extra skin adds his girth during intercourse.
Most guys love their dicks regardless if they're cut or uncut. I'm sure your guy loves his too. He might wish he had less skin, but I'm sure he's learned to accept it. If you really love him, you should love him for all of his qualities, whether you see them as good or bad.
If you just can't get over the tickle in his trunk, you might just need to end it.
Dr. Brian Parker is a clinical sexologist and sex educator and the co-creator of two sexual intimacy board games “Embrace” and “Pillow Talk.” The games are available on his website, www.foreverpleasure.com which features original erotic art, high-end sensual products and adult sex education.
This column is made possible by the generous support of O'My Natural Lubricants. If you have a sexual question you want answered in the ‘Ask the Sex Doc' column please email drbrian@foreverpleasure.com and watch for his response in this paper.
So, last night I was having sex with my girlfriend. She was sitting on top of me when all of a sudden a bunch of warm liquid shot onto my stomach. It didn't really smell like pee, but I think she pissed on me. It completely turned me off. I had to stop having sex with her. I think she was a little embarrassed too because we haven't talked about it yet. I've heard of girls squirting, but I don't believe it exists. Was this really just piss?
Watersports Willy @ UBCO
Dear Watersports Willy @ UBCO;
When are you and all your buddies out there going to realize that girls CAN ejaculate? Almost every time I speak of gusher orgasms in front of large groups of men I see the look of disbelief in their eyes.
Come on Watersports Willy, if she wanted to piss on you she'd most likely find a way to do that in the shower.
Experts on the topic report that every single woman is capable of ejaculating. A large study, published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior, found that 40 per cent of women report being able to shoot girl cum.
Research has also proven that the gushing liquid isn't piss. It is generally a mixture of alkaline fluid made up of prostatic acid phosphatase and glucose (like that from the male prostate gland) and three per cent urea.
And Watersports Willy, you probably thought she tinkled on you since the fluid came out of her urethra. Researchers have found that only trace amounts of ejaculate will make its way through the paraurethral ducts into the vagina and mix with her natural love juices.
It sounds like she released a lot of fluid, if you confused it with pee. If your gal is anything like her sisters in the studies, she most likely released about 300ml.
Instead of being pissed off, you should be excited. You must have turned her on enough that she had some pretty severe pelvic muscle contractions during orgasm. And, she is (or at least was at the time) comfortable and relaxed enough with you to use you as a cum rag for a change.
Watersports Willy, I would suggest you apologize to your girl for over-reacting. Tell her you were surprised by the experience and that you didn't know what happened.
Tell your gushing girl that you've read up on female ejaculation and congratulate her on this experience. She'll feel much more comfortable with you (and with releasing her juice) from this moment on.
Dear Sex Doc;
I just started seeing this guy about a month ago. I really like him and all, but I think he's kind of deformed. His foreskin is freakishly long. I haven't been with too many guys, but I know when something is off down there. It doesn't bother me during intercourse, but when I give him oral I pretty well gag on all that skin. I want to stay with him, but what can I do about his massive foreskin?
Choking on Foreskin @ UNBSJ
Dear Choking on Foreskin @ UNBSJ;
I'm not sure how long a ‘freakishly' long foreskin is, but I'm assuming his tickle trunk doesn't retract over the head of his penis when he's erect.
When most uncut guys get an erection, their foreskin moves over their glans. In fact, it is often difficult to tell if a guy is uncut when he's hard. Your guy was born with a little more trunk than most. It sounds like it works for intercourse because there's more junk to stimulate you.
But, like you mentioned Choking on Foreskin, too much casing at the end of his sausage can be a pain in the ass in the mouth. I would suggest you push the foreskin down when you are going down on your guy. Hold it in place while sucking on his knob. You can slowly move the foreskin back and forth, but don't let his macro derma dick get out of control.
I worry that you think he's deformed. Do you think he has issues with the amount of outer membrane on his member? If so, talk to him and let him know he's normal. Even better, tell him that all that extra skin adds his girth during intercourse.
Most guys love their dicks regardless if they're cut or uncut. I'm sure your guy loves his too. He might wish he had less skin, but I'm sure he's learned to accept it. If you really love him, you should love him for all of his qualities, whether you see them as good or bad.
If you just can't get over the tickle in his trunk, you might just need to end it.
Dr. Brian Parker is a clinical sexologist and sex educator and the co-creator of two sexual intimacy board games “Embrace” and “Pillow Talk.” The games are available on his website, www.foreverpleasure.com which features original erotic art, high-end sensual products and adult sex education.
This column is made possible by the generous support of O'My Natural Lubricants. If you have a sexual question you want answered in the ‘Ask the Sex Doc' column please email drbrian@foreverpleasure.com and watch for his response in this paper.
