Ask the Sex Doc: No love from wallet glove
Dear Sex Doc;
I've noticed that my girlfriend isn't as ‘in touch' with her genitals as I am with mine. I'm not just talking about the fact that she doesn't masturbate while on her own. She doesn't even seem to like her genitals. Why can't she love her vag as much as I love my dick?
Proud Penis @ SAIT
Dear Proud Penis @ SAIT;
This is much more common than you may think. Research shows that girls don't dig their precious as much as men love their tools. Twenty - Two per cent of women don't like the smell of their pink lady, while only three per cent of guys think their wiener smells like stagnant Borneo swamp water.
Studies have also found that a lot of girls don't like the texture and amount of their pubic hair. A guy's genital image issues are centred around the size of their limp penis, cause no one can tell how big it really gets.
As a man, I can't blame you girls for thinking your genitals look ‘weird.' Society perpetuates this myth, does it not Proud Penis?
When we compare slang words for penis and vulva it is easy to see that a guy's piece (dong, dick, stick, sword) is powerful. Slang for a woman's tender regions aren't so positive. Beaver, box, beef curtains, bearded clam, and the c word don't sound too appealing. As a male, I think it is important to note that it is mainly men who use these slang terms and the ones who keep these myths afloat.
There are some other reasons that us men find it easier to connect with our willy's. Most men connect daily with theirs and we know that women (including your honey) do that a quarter less then men.
And Proud Penis, you've probably figured out that your tube is external whereas most of your girlfriend's nether region is internal.
A boy gets to know his pee pee at a very early age. For all of you students out there who have seen a baby boy get his diaper changed you've probably noticed that the first thing little Johnny grabs is his junior. Why you ask? Because it is full of nerve endings and it feels good.
Boys also learn to touch their stick when they get potty trained. They become very familiar with their dingle-dangles by puberty. Weekly, they'll check themselves out in the mirror and see what's happening down there. Proud Penis, I'd bet a lot of money that your girlfriend has never taken a good look at her genitals.
Your girlfriend and her gal friends have been led to believe (by men) that their coochy is stinky. And, plenty of them buy into the douching routine. In fact, a study sponsored by Summer's Eve (hello) found that women have better genital image if they had control over their body's freshness.
So Proud Penis, I'm totally stoked that you love to stroke. However, it is going to take some time for your lady friend to open up. Though these societal messages towards women's sexuality are losing momentum, many girls still subscribe to these social scripts.
It may take some time for your gal and her friends to stop worrying about being stinky or having an afro jutting out of their shorts. From the look of the locker room, men certainly don't seem to care. Maybe women shouldn't be so concerned either.
Dear Sex Doc;
Hey, Sex Doc! My younger brother has been storing the same condom in his wallet for three years. Is this safe? I've heard you shouldn't keep a condom in your wallet.
Concerned Older Brother @ University of Lethbridge
Dear Concerned Older Brother @ University of Lethbridge;
You tell your younger brother that he should throw out that dried out, frizzled up condom immediately. First of all, it doesn't look cool for him to carry around the same condom for three years. He thinks he looks cool when he really just looks like someone who isn't getting any.
The problem with storing condoms in your wallet is that latex (which almost all condoms are made out of) does not like heat. The heat in the wallet breaks down the latex to the point where it will easily rip and tear if you use it for sex. Of course, that puts you and your partner at risk for a possible pregnancy and/or STI transmission.
The same goes for purses and backpacks. Besides the heat issue, there's generally lots of sharp objects including scissors, tweezers, and protractors (for all you math geeks), that can puncture the condom.
The best way to store latex condoms is at room temperature and away from light or heat. Put them in a sock drawer for long-term storage. You can put a condom in your pocket if you're going out on the town and know you're getting lucky. Just don't store it in there.
Dr. Brian Parker is a clinical sexologist and sex educator and the co-creator of two sexual intimacy board games “Embrace” and “Pillow Talk.” The games are available on his website, www.foreverpleasure.com which features original erotic art, high-end sensual products and adult sex education.
This column is made possible by the generous support of O'My Natural Lubricants. If you have a sexual question you want answered in the ‘Ask the Sex Doc' column please email drbrian@foreverpleasure.com and watch for his response in this paper.
I've noticed that my girlfriend isn't as ‘in touch' with her genitals as I am with mine. I'm not just talking about the fact that she doesn't masturbate while on her own. She doesn't even seem to like her genitals. Why can't she love her vag as much as I love my dick?
Proud Penis @ SAIT
Dear Proud Penis @ SAIT;
This is much more common than you may think. Research shows that girls don't dig their precious as much as men love their tools. Twenty - Two per cent of women don't like the smell of their pink lady, while only three per cent of guys think their wiener smells like stagnant Borneo swamp water.
Studies have also found that a lot of girls don't like the texture and amount of their pubic hair. A guy's genital image issues are centred around the size of their limp penis, cause no one can tell how big it really gets.
As a man, I can't blame you girls for thinking your genitals look ‘weird.' Society perpetuates this myth, does it not Proud Penis?
When we compare slang words for penis and vulva it is easy to see that a guy's piece (dong, dick, stick, sword) is powerful. Slang for a woman's tender regions aren't so positive. Beaver, box, beef curtains, bearded clam, and the c word don't sound too appealing. As a male, I think it is important to note that it is mainly men who use these slang terms and the ones who keep these myths afloat.
There are some other reasons that us men find it easier to connect with our willy's. Most men connect daily with theirs and we know that women (including your honey) do that a quarter less then men.
And Proud Penis, you've probably figured out that your tube is external whereas most of your girlfriend's nether region is internal.
A boy gets to know his pee pee at a very early age. For all of you students out there who have seen a baby boy get his diaper changed you've probably noticed that the first thing little Johnny grabs is his junior. Why you ask? Because it is full of nerve endings and it feels good.
Boys also learn to touch their stick when they get potty trained. They become very familiar with their dingle-dangles by puberty. Weekly, they'll check themselves out in the mirror and see what's happening down there. Proud Penis, I'd bet a lot of money that your girlfriend has never taken a good look at her genitals.
Your girlfriend and her gal friends have been led to believe (by men) that their coochy is stinky. And, plenty of them buy into the douching routine. In fact, a study sponsored by Summer's Eve (hello) found that women have better genital image if they had control over their body's freshness.
So Proud Penis, I'm totally stoked that you love to stroke. However, it is going to take some time for your lady friend to open up. Though these societal messages towards women's sexuality are losing momentum, many girls still subscribe to these social scripts.
It may take some time for your gal and her friends to stop worrying about being stinky or having an afro jutting out of their shorts. From the look of the locker room, men certainly don't seem to care. Maybe women shouldn't be so concerned either.
Dear Sex Doc;
Hey, Sex Doc! My younger brother has been storing the same condom in his wallet for three years. Is this safe? I've heard you shouldn't keep a condom in your wallet.
Concerned Older Brother @ University of Lethbridge
Dear Concerned Older Brother @ University of Lethbridge;
You tell your younger brother that he should throw out that dried out, frizzled up condom immediately. First of all, it doesn't look cool for him to carry around the same condom for three years. He thinks he looks cool when he really just looks like someone who isn't getting any.
The problem with storing condoms in your wallet is that latex (which almost all condoms are made out of) does not like heat. The heat in the wallet breaks down the latex to the point where it will easily rip and tear if you use it for sex. Of course, that puts you and your partner at risk for a possible pregnancy and/or STI transmission.
The same goes for purses and backpacks. Besides the heat issue, there's generally lots of sharp objects including scissors, tweezers, and protractors (for all you math geeks), that can puncture the condom.
The best way to store latex condoms is at room temperature and away from light or heat. Put them in a sock drawer for long-term storage. You can put a condom in your pocket if you're going out on the town and know you're getting lucky. Just don't store it in there.
Dr. Brian Parker is a clinical sexologist and sex educator and the co-creator of two sexual intimacy board games “Embrace” and “Pillow Talk.” The games are available on his website, www.foreverpleasure.com which features original erotic art, high-end sensual products and adult sex education.
This column is made possible by the generous support of O'My Natural Lubricants. If you have a sexual question you want answered in the ‘Ask the Sex Doc' column please email drbrian@foreverpleasure.com and watch for his response in this paper.
