Ask the Sex Doc: Anal, what's in it for her
Dear Sex Doc;
I've heard some girls like anal sex. What the hell could they get from that? Wouldn't that miss all their girly parts?
Confused Girls Cornhole @ UNBC
Dear Confused Girls Cornhole;
Yeah CGC, most people have already heard why guys might like getting their A-Spot (prostate gland) tickled by a penis, dildo, or finger, but a lot of you have no idea why a girl might enjoy getting her back end played with.
Just like for boys, a girl's anus has a ton of nerve endings making this area super sensitive to stimulation. A little pucker massage could send your lady lover over the edge.
The rectum and vagina also share an internal wall together. And, those all important vaginal nerve endings are sometimes easier to ‘connect with' from the backside.
A women's G-Spot can also be stimulated from the rectum. Remember, that the G-spot is analogous to the male prostate gland, which is easily stimulated through the bum. Many women have amazing G-Spot orgasms through butt sex.
A woman can also have an anal orgasm. This is distinct and different from a clitoral, vaginal, or G-Spot orgasm. This too, makes booty sex fun for girls.
Further, when a man or woman orgasms, they have contractions that is also felt in their rear end. This whole pelvic region has lots of pleasurable zones that make it fun.
So CGC, bone smuggling might not be your cup of tea, but some girls totally get off on it. It's best not to judge. Everyone has different likes and dislikes in and out of the bedroom.
Dear Sex Doc;
I'm a HIV positive male and I still want to have a good sex life. What can I do?
Positive, but not Negative @ GMC
Dear Positive, but not Negative @ GMC
First, thank you for seeking safer sex information on how to further protect yourself and your partners. It's great you realize you can still have an enjoyable and satisfying sex life even though you are HIV positive.
You didn't mention whether your partners were male, female, or both, so I'll respond trying to be inclusive of all sexual orientations.
There are many sensual (and highly satisfying) acts that we can do with another individual that carry no risk of HIV transmission. Remember, we are sexual beings from the ends of our hair to the tips of our toes.
We can give our partner a sensual massage, have a hot ‘make out' session, or feed them an erotic meal. Becoming more intimate, we can masturbate our self or our partner.
When it comes to HIV transmission and sex we have to be aware of our bodily fluids. The HIV virus is present in blood, semen, vaginal fluid, and breast milk. Any time an HIV infected fluid gets into our bloodstream we are at risk of becoming HIV positive.
For dudes, it's important to use condoms anytime you do anything sexual, including oral sex. Individuals are at risk if they have little cuts in their mouth (from flossing their teeth, etc.) and if pre-ejaculatory fluid or cum is present on the penis.
Experts used to say that you could swallow cum because the stomach acids would kill the HIV virus. New reports suggest this may not be true. So, always use condoms for oral.
The same is true for oral sex on a woman. Dental dams (or a condom cut down the center) should be used to protect both partners.
When it comes to penis-vagina and penis-anus sex, individuals (whether HIV positive or not), should always use condoms to protect both people. The vaginal and/or rectal canal can have little cuts, which are open to the bloodstream and can easily transmit HIV.
And for all you girls out there that like girls, you should be using condoms on your sex toys if you are sharing them with a loved one.
Positive, but not Negative, and anyone else out there regardless of your HIV status, you really need to be using condoms. Condoms can be fun, sexy, and erotic. Finding a way to incorporate condoms into your sex life that makes them hot and not a chore will make them a lot easier to use.
And remember, condoms aren't 100 per cent effective. They do break occasionally. Using a generous amount of lubricant for all of these acts will not only make sex more enjoyable, but it will also reduce the likelihood of breakage.
So Positive, but not Negative, you certainly can enjoy a fantastic sex life. Follow these suggestions and you and your partners will be safer.
Dr. Brian Parker is a clinical sexologist and sex educator and the co-creator of two sexual intimacy board games “Embrace” and “Pillow Talk.” The games are available on his website, www.foreverpleasure.com which features original erotic art, high-end sensual products and adult sex education.
This column is made possible by the generous support of O'My Natural Lubricants. If you have a sexual question you want answered in the ‘Ask the Sex Doc' column please email drbrian@foreverpleasure.com and watch for his response in this paper.
I've heard some girls like anal sex. What the hell could they get from that? Wouldn't that miss all their girly parts?
Confused Girls Cornhole @ UNBC
Dear Confused Girls Cornhole;
Yeah CGC, most people have already heard why guys might like getting their A-Spot (prostate gland) tickled by a penis, dildo, or finger, but a lot of you have no idea why a girl might enjoy getting her back end played with.
Just like for boys, a girl's anus has a ton of nerve endings making this area super sensitive to stimulation. A little pucker massage could send your lady lover over the edge.
The rectum and vagina also share an internal wall together. And, those all important vaginal nerve endings are sometimes easier to ‘connect with' from the backside.
A women's G-Spot can also be stimulated from the rectum. Remember, that the G-spot is analogous to the male prostate gland, which is easily stimulated through the bum. Many women have amazing G-Spot orgasms through butt sex.
A woman can also have an anal orgasm. This is distinct and different from a clitoral, vaginal, or G-Spot orgasm. This too, makes booty sex fun for girls.
Further, when a man or woman orgasms, they have contractions that is also felt in their rear end. This whole pelvic region has lots of pleasurable zones that make it fun.
So CGC, bone smuggling might not be your cup of tea, but some girls totally get off on it. It's best not to judge. Everyone has different likes and dislikes in and out of the bedroom.
Dear Sex Doc;
I'm a HIV positive male and I still want to have a good sex life. What can I do?
Positive, but not Negative @ GMC
Dear Positive, but not Negative @ GMC
First, thank you for seeking safer sex information on how to further protect yourself and your partners. It's great you realize you can still have an enjoyable and satisfying sex life even though you are HIV positive.
You didn't mention whether your partners were male, female, or both, so I'll respond trying to be inclusive of all sexual orientations.
There are many sensual (and highly satisfying) acts that we can do with another individual that carry no risk of HIV transmission. Remember, we are sexual beings from the ends of our hair to the tips of our toes.
We can give our partner a sensual massage, have a hot ‘make out' session, or feed them an erotic meal. Becoming more intimate, we can masturbate our self or our partner.
When it comes to HIV transmission and sex we have to be aware of our bodily fluids. The HIV virus is present in blood, semen, vaginal fluid, and breast milk. Any time an HIV infected fluid gets into our bloodstream we are at risk of becoming HIV positive.
For dudes, it's important to use condoms anytime you do anything sexual, including oral sex. Individuals are at risk if they have little cuts in their mouth (from flossing their teeth, etc.) and if pre-ejaculatory fluid or cum is present on the penis.
Experts used to say that you could swallow cum because the stomach acids would kill the HIV virus. New reports suggest this may not be true. So, always use condoms for oral.
The same is true for oral sex on a woman. Dental dams (or a condom cut down the center) should be used to protect both partners.
When it comes to penis-vagina and penis-anus sex, individuals (whether HIV positive or not), should always use condoms to protect both people. The vaginal and/or rectal canal can have little cuts, which are open to the bloodstream and can easily transmit HIV.
And for all you girls out there that like girls, you should be using condoms on your sex toys if you are sharing them with a loved one.
Positive, but not Negative, and anyone else out there regardless of your HIV status, you really need to be using condoms. Condoms can be fun, sexy, and erotic. Finding a way to incorporate condoms into your sex life that makes them hot and not a chore will make them a lot easier to use.
And remember, condoms aren't 100 per cent effective. They do break occasionally. Using a generous amount of lubricant for all of these acts will not only make sex more enjoyable, but it will also reduce the likelihood of breakage.
So Positive, but not Negative, you certainly can enjoy a fantastic sex life. Follow these suggestions and you and your partners will be safer.
Dr. Brian Parker is a clinical sexologist and sex educator and the co-creator of two sexual intimacy board games “Embrace” and “Pillow Talk.” The games are available on his website, www.foreverpleasure.com which features original erotic art, high-end sensual products and adult sex education.
This column is made possible by the generous support of O'My Natural Lubricants. If you have a sexual question you want answered in the ‘Ask the Sex Doc' column please email drbrian@foreverpleasure.com and watch for his response in this paper.
