Ask the Sex Doc: Sex Doc knows where your wood went
Dear Sex Doc;
The last time I was getting head from my partner I lost my wood. To make matters worse, this happens quite often. Why does this happen to me and what can I do to stop it from happening in the future?
Fanshawe Flaccid Fellow
Dear Fanshawe Flaccid Fellow;
This can be a very common experience. In fact, many men also lose their erections during sexual intercourse. The brain is actually your primary sex organ so when your brain is off somewhere else or you're worrying about your English paper your arousal level will decrease and that raging hardon goes into hiding. This is perfectly normal. Although, pharmaceutical companies would love you to pop a pill to solve your limp ways, this is usually not necessary.
The blood quickly drains from a dude's pipe for a number of reasons, but most likely when they're concerned about their penis (is it big enough? too big? does it still smell like moldy cheese curds? what if I cum?, or worse, what if I can't cum, etc.).
When you are receiving oral sex, try to concentrate on the wonderful feelings and sensations. Don't put too much pressure on yourself to perform, just relax and enjoy yourself. If you focus on the pleasure, the veins will be a poppin' for a long time.
Dear Sex Doc;
Help!!! I'm 31 years old, I've been married to the same man for ten years, and I have never had an orgasm during sex. This is putting a huge strain on my relationship with my husband. Whenever my husband wants sex I use the excuse that I'm too busy with school. I really want to do it, but I also want to enjoy it. What can I do?
Determined to Cum at SAIT
Dear Determined to Cum at SAIT;
This is more common than you may think. Studies have found that only about a third of woman consistently have orgasms through penis-vagina sex. You girls out there might not be aware of this, but most guys don't know squat about a female's erogenous zones. They talk the talk, but if guys really knew do you really think 33 per cent of you would be staring at the ceiling in total boredom during sex? Here's the scoop. The woman's clitoris is her pleasure organ. The only reason it exists is for pleasure. It has no other function. The clitoris has more nerve endings than the entire penis — 8,000 in fact. Stimulation of the clitoris is the easiest and most reliable way for most women to attain orgasm. The clitoris purrs best with quick movements like from a tongue, finger, or vibrator.
During penis-vagina sex the clitoris is often ignored. Experts have determined three, sexual positions in which the clitoris and the G-spot are much likelier to be stimulated resulting in greater orgasm consistency for women. The positions are: woman on top facing their partner, doggy-style, and man from behind in the spooning position.
And remember, hetero sex is not just penis and vagina. Either partner can stimulate the woman's clitoris with their hands or a vibrator during penetration to ensure she gets to Planet O. Try these suggestions Determined to Cum, and you'll be whistling in the hallways of SAIT.
Dear Sex Doc;
I've been having sex with my boyfriend for the past six months using only condoms. Now, my best friend tells me that condoms don't work. She said that condoms have holes in them larger than sperm and most STD viruses, including HIV. Is this true?
Perplexed Patty at UBCO
Dear Perplexed Patty at UBCO;
No, this is misinformation if you are talking about latex or polyurethane (plastic) condoms. Almost all condoms are made with these materials. However, you can also get lambskin condoms, which could have holes that these things could pass through. Also, any condom labeled ‘for novelty purposes only' will not protect an individual from pregnancy or STIs. So if a condom glows in the dark, has a huge plastic daisy at the tip, or if it sings happy birthday as Mr. Happy gets busy, it isn't a real condom.
If used perfectly, latex and polyurethane condoms are 90 per cent effective against pregnancy and greatly reduce the chances of getting a sexually transmitted infection. A great website to learn more about safer sex and STIs is www.sexualityandu.ca.
Dr. Brian Parker is a clinical sexologist and sex educator and the co-creator of two sexual intimacy board games “Embrace” and “Pillow Talk.” The games are available on his website, www.foreverpleasure.com which features original erotic art, high-end sensual products and adult sex education. If you have a sexual question you want answered in the ‘Ask the Sex Doc' column please email drbrian@foreverpleasure.com and watch for his response in this paper.
The last time I was getting head from my partner I lost my wood. To make matters worse, this happens quite often. Why does this happen to me and what can I do to stop it from happening in the future?
Fanshawe Flaccid Fellow
Dear Fanshawe Flaccid Fellow;
This can be a very common experience. In fact, many men also lose their erections during sexual intercourse. The brain is actually your primary sex organ so when your brain is off somewhere else or you're worrying about your English paper your arousal level will decrease and that raging hardon goes into hiding. This is perfectly normal. Although, pharmaceutical companies would love you to pop a pill to solve your limp ways, this is usually not necessary.
The blood quickly drains from a dude's pipe for a number of reasons, but most likely when they're concerned about their penis (is it big enough? too big? does it still smell like moldy cheese curds? what if I cum?, or worse, what if I can't cum, etc.).
When you are receiving oral sex, try to concentrate on the wonderful feelings and sensations. Don't put too much pressure on yourself to perform, just relax and enjoy yourself. If you focus on the pleasure, the veins will be a poppin' for a long time.
Dear Sex Doc;
Help!!! I'm 31 years old, I've been married to the same man for ten years, and I have never had an orgasm during sex. This is putting a huge strain on my relationship with my husband. Whenever my husband wants sex I use the excuse that I'm too busy with school. I really want to do it, but I also want to enjoy it. What can I do?
Determined to Cum at SAIT
Dear Determined to Cum at SAIT;
This is more common than you may think. Studies have found that only about a third of woman consistently have orgasms through penis-vagina sex. You girls out there might not be aware of this, but most guys don't know squat about a female's erogenous zones. They talk the talk, but if guys really knew do you really think 33 per cent of you would be staring at the ceiling in total boredom during sex? Here's the scoop. The woman's clitoris is her pleasure organ. The only reason it exists is for pleasure. It has no other function. The clitoris has more nerve endings than the entire penis — 8,000 in fact. Stimulation of the clitoris is the easiest and most reliable way for most women to attain orgasm. The clitoris purrs best with quick movements like from a tongue, finger, or vibrator.
During penis-vagina sex the clitoris is often ignored. Experts have determined three, sexual positions in which the clitoris and the G-spot are much likelier to be stimulated resulting in greater orgasm consistency for women. The positions are: woman on top facing their partner, doggy-style, and man from behind in the spooning position.
And remember, hetero sex is not just penis and vagina. Either partner can stimulate the woman's clitoris with their hands or a vibrator during penetration to ensure she gets to Planet O. Try these suggestions Determined to Cum, and you'll be whistling in the hallways of SAIT.
Dear Sex Doc;
I've been having sex with my boyfriend for the past six months using only condoms. Now, my best friend tells me that condoms don't work. She said that condoms have holes in them larger than sperm and most STD viruses, including HIV. Is this true?
Perplexed Patty at UBCO
Dear Perplexed Patty at UBCO;
No, this is misinformation if you are talking about latex or polyurethane (plastic) condoms. Almost all condoms are made with these materials. However, you can also get lambskin condoms, which could have holes that these things could pass through. Also, any condom labeled ‘for novelty purposes only' will not protect an individual from pregnancy or STIs. So if a condom glows in the dark, has a huge plastic daisy at the tip, or if it sings happy birthday as Mr. Happy gets busy, it isn't a real condom.
If used perfectly, latex and polyurethane condoms are 90 per cent effective against pregnancy and greatly reduce the chances of getting a sexually transmitted infection. A great website to learn more about safer sex and STIs is www.sexualityandu.ca.
Dr. Brian Parker is a clinical sexologist and sex educator and the co-creator of two sexual intimacy board games “Embrace” and “Pillow Talk.” The games are available on his website, www.foreverpleasure.com which features original erotic art, high-end sensual products and adult sex education. If you have a sexual question you want answered in the ‘Ask the Sex Doc' column please email drbrian@foreverpleasure.com and watch for his response in this paper.
