Ask the Sex Doc: Masturbation: How much is too much
Dear Sex Doc;
I'm 18 and in my first year of university and I think I'm addicted to jerking off. Is it normal for me to want to jack off every day? I'm sorry, but I'd rather play with myself than do Calculus.
Sore Dick Failing Math at UNB
Dear Sore Dick Failing Math at UNB;
I'm not knocking math, but who in their right mind would rather figure out partial derivatives than pop a good one off? Masturbation is perfectly normal and natural to do at any point in your life. In fact, experts generally say that “99 per cent of boys masturbate and the other one per cent lie!” This doesn't mean that every single guy masturbates, however many do. In 1990, the Kinsey Institute found that 94 per cent of men regularly masturbate to orgasm.
Once a day doesn't sound like an addiction unless you're whacking nonstop. You're generally not addicted unless your obsession with your member hinders other aspects of your life. So if you find yourself pulling your pud instead of attending classes or doing chores you might need to schedule your ‘play' time around school.
Another issue with perpetual penis play is chaffing. If your swollen member is too raw you shouldn't continue spanking the monkey. And you probably shouldn't try to have sex with someone since you'll probably suck in bed. To make matters worse, your bed buddy will take one look at that thing and assume you've got an STI.
Dear Sex Doc;
What and where is this elusive G-spot I've heard so much about? I've failed to find it myself and even had a boyfriend who said he was an expert miss it. Does every woman have a G-spot?
Frustrated Miner at U of A
Dear Frustrated Miner at U of A;
The G-spot or Grafenberg spot (named after Dr. Grafenberg who is credited with discovering the G-spot) is either the nerve endings of the clitoris or the paraurethral gland that produces lubrication. Experts aren't positive what it is, but millions of screaming woman have discovered where it is.
The latest research on the G-spot makes a good case for it being the paraurethral gland, which is analogous to the prostate gland. The prostate gland contains 90 per cent of the fluid in male semen.
You can find the G-spot by inserting a finger into the vaginal canal. Gently bend your finger straight up towards the urethra in a ‘come hither' motion and search for a bean-shaped gland. The G-spot will be raised.
Research shows that women have their G-spots in different locations. It can be anywhere from directly inside the vaginal canal to about two inches back. You'll have to do some exploration to find yours.
It is easier to find a woman's G-spot when she is aroused. Clitoral stimulation is the best way to achieve this. During arousal, the vaginal canal expands in length to about sixinches. During this time, the G-spot swells with fluid and is more sensitive to touch.
Many women find this area extremely pleasurable when touched. The G-spot area responds best to firm pressure with a mild vibration. So guys, unless you've got a wacky shaped dick, you'd better use your finger or, better yet, a silicone dildo or vibe designed for G-spot stimulation.
Dear Sex Doc;
I've recently started having intercourse with my boyfriend and almost every time my vagina passes gas. This is extremely embarrassing, to the point where I don't feel like having sex anymore. Is there anything I can do to stop this? Please help.
Gassy Girl at UBC
Dear Gassy Girl at UBC;
What you are talking about is vaginal flatulence (farts) or what is often referred to in slang as ‘quiffs.' Basically, when a woman is having intercourse, air can easily make its way into the vagina when the penis is thrusting in and out. The air has to eventually come out. How loud the ‘quiff' is depends on how much air has entered the vagina and the force at which it comes out.
If your guy won't stop complaining about your love noises, just hit him where it hurts. Tell him that you wouldn't ‘fart' if his dick were bigger. Actually, you'd better not. Guys are extremely sensitive about the size of their manhood.
So, unless you're letting them rumble louder than a 747 it really isn't a big deal. Understanding that this is just ‘air' should make you and your partner more comfortable when this happens. Don't worry, relax, and enjoy yourself.
Dr. Brian Parker is a clinical sexologist and sex educator and the co-creator of two sexual intimacy board games “Embrace” and “Pillow Talk.” The games are available on his website, www.foreverpleasure.com which features original erotic art, high-end sensual products and adult sex education. If you have a sexual question you want answered in the ‘Ask the Sex Doc' column please email drbrian@foreverpleasure.com and watch for his response in this paper.
I'm 18 and in my first year of university and I think I'm addicted to jerking off. Is it normal for me to want to jack off every day? I'm sorry, but I'd rather play with myself than do Calculus.
Sore Dick Failing Math at UNB
Dear Sore Dick Failing Math at UNB;
I'm not knocking math, but who in their right mind would rather figure out partial derivatives than pop a good one off? Masturbation is perfectly normal and natural to do at any point in your life. In fact, experts generally say that “99 per cent of boys masturbate and the other one per cent lie!” This doesn't mean that every single guy masturbates, however many do. In 1990, the Kinsey Institute found that 94 per cent of men regularly masturbate to orgasm.
Once a day doesn't sound like an addiction unless you're whacking nonstop. You're generally not addicted unless your obsession with your member hinders other aspects of your life. So if you find yourself pulling your pud instead of attending classes or doing chores you might need to schedule your ‘play' time around school.
Another issue with perpetual penis play is chaffing. If your swollen member is too raw you shouldn't continue spanking the monkey. And you probably shouldn't try to have sex with someone since you'll probably suck in bed. To make matters worse, your bed buddy will take one look at that thing and assume you've got an STI.
Dear Sex Doc;
What and where is this elusive G-spot I've heard so much about? I've failed to find it myself and even had a boyfriend who said he was an expert miss it. Does every woman have a G-spot?
Frustrated Miner at U of A
Dear Frustrated Miner at U of A;
The G-spot or Grafenberg spot (named after Dr. Grafenberg who is credited with discovering the G-spot) is either the nerve endings of the clitoris or the paraurethral gland that produces lubrication. Experts aren't positive what it is, but millions of screaming woman have discovered where it is.
The latest research on the G-spot makes a good case for it being the paraurethral gland, which is analogous to the prostate gland. The prostate gland contains 90 per cent of the fluid in male semen.
You can find the G-spot by inserting a finger into the vaginal canal. Gently bend your finger straight up towards the urethra in a ‘come hither' motion and search for a bean-shaped gland. The G-spot will be raised.
Research shows that women have their G-spots in different locations. It can be anywhere from directly inside the vaginal canal to about two inches back. You'll have to do some exploration to find yours.
It is easier to find a woman's G-spot when she is aroused. Clitoral stimulation is the best way to achieve this. During arousal, the vaginal canal expands in length to about sixinches. During this time, the G-spot swells with fluid and is more sensitive to touch.
Many women find this area extremely pleasurable when touched. The G-spot area responds best to firm pressure with a mild vibration. So guys, unless you've got a wacky shaped dick, you'd better use your finger or, better yet, a silicone dildo or vibe designed for G-spot stimulation.
Dear Sex Doc;
I've recently started having intercourse with my boyfriend and almost every time my vagina passes gas. This is extremely embarrassing, to the point where I don't feel like having sex anymore. Is there anything I can do to stop this? Please help.
Gassy Girl at UBC
Dear Gassy Girl at UBC;
What you are talking about is vaginal flatulence (farts) or what is often referred to in slang as ‘quiffs.' Basically, when a woman is having intercourse, air can easily make its way into the vagina when the penis is thrusting in and out. The air has to eventually come out. How loud the ‘quiff' is depends on how much air has entered the vagina and the force at which it comes out.
If your guy won't stop complaining about your love noises, just hit him where it hurts. Tell him that you wouldn't ‘fart' if his dick were bigger. Actually, you'd better not. Guys are extremely sensitive about the size of their manhood.
So, unless you're letting them rumble louder than a 747 it really isn't a big deal. Understanding that this is just ‘air' should make you and your partner more comfortable when this happens. Don't worry, relax, and enjoy yourself.
Dr. Brian Parker is a clinical sexologist and sex educator and the co-creator of two sexual intimacy board games “Embrace” and “Pillow Talk.” The games are available on his website, www.foreverpleasure.com which features original erotic art, high-end sensual products and adult sex education. If you have a sexual question you want answered in the ‘Ask the Sex Doc' column please email drbrian@foreverpleasure.com and watch for his response in this paper.
