1. Randy Rub-a-Dub-Dub
Before you make love, take a bath together. Prepare the bathroom beautifully beforehand with fluffy towels and candles. Then put two drops of patchouli oil, three drops of sandalwood oil, and three drops of lavender oil into your bathwater. Patchouli and sandalwood are two scents that aromatherapists believe awaken sensuality, while the lavender is thought to induce relaxation. The combination of scents and warm-water sensations will completely prime your bodies -- and minds -- for a truly sensual and erotic experience.

2. ABCs of Pleasure
Try using your tongue to spell out the ABCs on your partner's genitals. Think it'll be too sporadic to really turn her on? Not true! And it's a fun way to get her geared up. Learn her favourite letters and put them in tantalizing order.

3. Unhand Your Man
Give your man a massage without using your hands. Before you begin, slowly undress your partner, but make sure that he stays warm. (If the room isn't toasty enough, cover him with towels or sheets.) Then, keeping your hands at your side or behind your back, stroke his body (all except for his penis) with your face, hair, and other body parts. Once he's totally relaxed, make your way southward and he'll happily rise to the occasion.

4. Heavenly Heartbeat
To feel more connected in bed, tune into each other's heart rate. Lay your hand on your partner's chest, and have her do the same. You might be surprised how easily you can become synchronized. Since heart rate speeds up during orgasm, if you stay hand-to-heart connected while you do it, you'll feel how wild you're driving each other.

5. The Miracle Inch
When going down on your man, you likely already know all of the hot spots. But there might be one you're overlooking. Whether you're giving him a blowjob or rim job, there's still plenty to explore down south. The "miracle inch" is a stretch of skin between the anus and balls. It's a sensitive spot that can be licked or gently stroked — sure to send shivers down his spine.

6. Pop His Cork
Try the oral-sex technique that I call The Screw. As you're moving up his shaft with your mouth, turn your head a bit from side to side, letting your tongue follow a corkscrew pattern. When you get to the frenulum -- that part of the shaft just beneath the head -- be sure to lick it for a few seconds before moving all the way up to the top. Then repeat, moving down his shaft. What will drive him wild about this is that you aren't just going up and down -- you're also going sideways. It's 3-D!

7. Let Go -- Loudly!
When you're sexually excited, really express yourself. Let yourself go in whatever way feels most comfortable. Scream your head off, laugh, shout his name -- whatever you have the urge to do. If you're embarrassed, just know that you're doing your partner a favor. The more you express your pleasure, the more you make your partner feel good too. Bonus: Your orgasms will be even more powerful if you really let'er rip vocally.

8. Suck It Up
When going down on your girl, you already know to give some gentle attention to the clitoris' many nerve endings. But don't be afraid to get a little rough with it! Spread her lips apart and gently suck on it. It's guaranteed to send her overboard. But be careful with how much force you use and keep teeth out of the equation. That'll drive her crazy in the least sexy way possible.

9. Eyes Wide Open
Don't close your eyes during sex. This is a great way to explore more of the emotional side of intercourse. Start by kissing with your eyes open and looking at each other during foreplay. Gradually build up until you can sustain eye contact throughout both of your climaxes. You'll experience your orgasm in a totally different way. It's a revelation.

10. Hot Dog!
Before giving him oral sex, position yourself so you're sitting to the side, almost perpendicular to his penis. Cup your hand around his member, creating a "bun" around his "hot dog." Then kiss the part of his penis that's exposed while breathing hard. Your hand will trap your exhalations and make his member feel superhot. With your other hand, work his testicles. He'll think he has died and gone to heaven.

11.Tantalizing Turn-Around
For ladies getting it on with their men, being on top is always fun — but don't forget a simple but sexy way to switch it up: reverse cowgirl! Face his legs instead of his face when you're on top. (Hold on to his feet for balance.) He'll get a great view of your backside -- a surefire turn-on. And if his erection points out instead of up, this position will feel especially incredible to him.

12. The Kiss Connection
Share a passionate 10-second kiss every single day. A lot of couples keep having sex but stop really kissing. And that's a shame, because it's such a wonderful, intimate act. So just go up and lay one on your partner. Instantly, you'll feel passionate instead of platonic. What a rush!

13. Bare Boogie
You don't have to have a model-perfect body to have maximum fun in the bedroom. Look at yourself naked in a full-length mirror for five minutes a day and focus on what you love about your body. If this feels awkward, turn on some music and dance naked with your mirror image. By getting used to your unique shape, you'll gain confidence that will naturally spill over into your sex life and make you twice as enticing to your partner.

14. Sultry Slo-Mo
To surprise him and build anticipation, try doing the same things you always do in the bedroom, but slow down to one-fourth of your normal speed. You and your partner will have time to really bond, and since you'll be feeling sensation over a longer period of time, both your orgasms will likely be out of this world.

15. Don't Wait to Exhale
You can actually use your breath to control your orgasm. With each exhalation, imagine that you're pushing the satisfying sensations throughout your body -- instead of just letting them build up below the waist. When you finally let go, you'll feel the orgasm from head to toe.

16. Finger-Food Foreplay
Have a romantic dinner without utensils so you can feed each other. There's something sensual about placing food in your partner's mouth. It's such fun -- especially when you serve stuff that's not supposed to be eaten with your hands, like salads or pasta. After a meal like this, serve yourself for dessert.

17. Back door lover
A taboo zone for many, but a secret fantasy for some. Don't be afraid to open to your partner if you want to try this area out next time you're getting dirty. You don't have to go all the way with anal sex, but even just gently stimulating it can be pleasurable for you or your partner. Just be safe, use a barrier if that makes you more comfortable and plenty of lube to ensure comfort.

18. Grab and Go
If you're turned on at an inopportune time, act on your feelings. Although it feels a little bit naughty, a quickie will help you stay faithful. People often have affairs solely for the illicit rush from doing something "bad." Quickies allow you to experience all of the having-an-affair thrill with none of the cheating.

19. Fantasy Land
Communication is always important in a relationship and so is switching it up! If you and your partner want to try new things, but aren't sure where to start, why not open up to each other on some of your dirty fantasies? Maybe it's roleplay or a new position you've been nervous to bring up. Listen and share with open minds and you're sure to heat up the bedroom in no time.

20. Pillow Power
Great sex is all about angles -- the angle of his erection and her pelvis determine exactly what hot spots will be hit. That's why pillows can be passion's best friends. Try one under his butt while you're on top or supporting your tailbone your favourite position. Or use a few to prop yourself up during oral. And don't be afraid to experiment with odd-size cushions, too. You'll be surprised how many new sensations you both experience just by adding a pillow.

*With resources from: Nitya Lacroix, The Art of Tantric Sex (DK Publishing, 1997); Susan Block, Ph.D., The 10 Commandments of Pleasure (St. Martin's Press, 1997); Barbara Keesling, Discover Your Sensual Potential (HarperCollins, 1999); Ellen Kreidman, The 10 Second Kiss (Renaissance, 1998); Paul Joannides, The Guide to Getting It On (Goofy Foot Press, 1999).