Ask the Sex Doc: College girls want bad boys

Dear Sex Doc;
I am a student at Grant MacEwan and I really enjoy your column. However, I'm not sure if you will answer my not so much sex question. How come in the competition between nice guys and jerks the last ones always seem to win the affection of the females?
Horny Nice Guy @ Grant MacEwan College


Dear Horny Nice Guy @ Grant MacEwan College;
I hear a lot of dudes complaining that ‘nice guys always finish last.' And, for a young college bloke like yourself, this might be true. You see Horny Nice Guy, some girls (especially the young ones) just wanna have fun.

College is the time to meet new people, date, experience, and explore. Most girls aren't looking for Mr. Right, they're looking for Mr. Right Now.

You've probably noticed that lots of girls go after guys who fit the ‘bad boy' image. And why shouldn't they? Boys with attitudes can definitely spice up your life.

I've also heard that girls date Fonzie to try and convert them into Richie Cunningham. Good luck ladies. You don't have much of a chance until a guy's testosterone drops after thirty.

People also assume that dirty boys are terrific lovers, whereas purists are dead lays. This may be true for some, but everyone is different in the sack regardless of their personality. In fact, a lot of shy people are porn stars in the bedroom.

Though most girls definitely don't want to date dicks, they like guys with balls. Girls want to date guys who have a mind of their own, someone who can make decisions, and can stand up for what they believe in.

Quite often, nice guys put everybody in front of themselves. Though this may be nice once in a while, it gets pretty annoying as time goes on. Women do not want to date a doormat.

There may even be biological reasons why women are attracted to big, strong, assholes. Studies have shown that women who are ovulating are more attracted to dominant men. After ovulation, the same women are attracted to submissive homebodies.

Now Horny Nice Guy, even though I'm explaining why some girls like assholes, I'm not telling you to drop your sweet ways and go ballistic on the babes. If the girls aren't stuck on you yet, they will be in the near future.

Lots of gals are looking for a Mr. Nice Guy. It's best not to compromise who you are (even for a piece of tail). Just be yourself, whoever you truly are, and you'll meet your perfect match some day.

Dear Sex Doc;
I read somewhere that guys think about sex over thirty times per day and women only think about it once per day. Is this really true? Are guys really that much hornier than girls?
Thinkin' Bout Sex @ SAIT


Dear Thinkin' Bout Sex @ SAIT;
I get this question a lot. And, if we're talking about a 14 year-old boy, chances are he's thinking about scoring or rubbing his stick up against something every few minutes.

However, for adults this couldn't be further from the truth. Guys do think about doing the deed more then women, but not by much.

One study asked guys and girls how often they think about doing the horizontal tango. Fifty-five per cent of males and 42 per cent of females said more than 10 per cent of the time. Pretty impressive. I wonder if that study was conducted at Horndog University?

Another study asked 4,420 individuals if they had a sexual thought in the past five minutes. Of the people aged 14 to 25, 52 per cent of the guys and 39 per cent of the gals said ‘yes.'

So it seems like guys think about jigglin' the genitals about 10 per cent more than women, not the whopping 3,000 per cent you suggested.

An individual's sex drive is determined by the amount of testosterone in their body. The more testosterone they have, the hornier they are.

Many women do suffer from low testosterone levels, especially as they age. In fact, the most common female sexual dysfunction is lack of desire. Almost one in three adult women suffer from it. And testosterone starts to drop for boys after the age of thirty.

So Thinkin' Bout Sex, you and your buddies might be thinkin' bout dining at the Y for breakfast, lunch, and dinner, but most of your gal friends want hot beef injections for at least two of those meals.

Most people think there are huge differences between men and women sexually. In fact, we are much more alike in the sexual realm than most people realize.

Dr. Brian Parker is a clinical sexologist and sex educator and the co-creator of two sexual intimacy board games “Embrace” and “Pillow Talk.” The games are available on his website, www.foreverpleasure.com which features original erotic art, high-end sensual products and adult sex education.

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