Ask the Sex Doc: Cunningly giving the perfect cunnilingus
Dear Sex Doc;
Okay, so you gave the girls some pointers for giving us head. What about some advice for us boys who need help going down on our girls? How can my mouth make her scream?
Orally Challenged @ BCIT
Dear Orally Challenged @ BCIT;
I'm sure all the girls reading this question are saying “thank God, finally my guy is gonna know how to get me off. I'm tired of that 60-second, vaginal slobber kiss he calls oral sex!”
So guys, the most important thing to do is to ASK your partner what they like. If your girl is comfortable with her body she's probably figured that out by now. If she hasn't, be her guide and together explore her love tunnel.
Orally Challenged, one of the biggest mistakes you and your buddies make is diving straight for the kitty with no warm up. Girls are not like boys. They take longer to turn on. A strong wind could get you college boys excited.
You should caress her, kiss her neck, blow in her ear, and nibble on the inside of her thigh all before letting your mouth get to that scrumptious meal between her legs. Orally Challenged, you should explore every nook and crevice of her body before you do a face plant in her hot tub.
One of the biggest problems boys have with giving face is that they assume the vagina is a girl's most erogenous zone. WRONG. The first two inches of the vaginal canal is sensitive and erogenous, but most women want your tongue laps a little north.
The clitoris has over 8,000 nerve endings. Boys, think of it as your penis on steroids. That's how powerful this baby is. Girls like their mouse clicked with quick movements of the tongue during oral sex.
Don't spend all your time lapping up her love button. Move your mouthpiece around her entire vulva, from the folds of her lips to her vagina. Lick the vulva upwards and don't be afraid to stick a finger or two inside the vagina to stimulate her G-Spot while you dine at the Y.
Orally Challenged, another really common mistake that you and your buddies make is not using your hands to stimulate your partner's other hot spots while you savour her love juice. Caress her breasts, bum, perineum, and tummy.
You'll probably have to move back up to her clit to make her cum, since around 80 per cent of women orgasm clitorally. And if your girl is about to cum you'd better stay focused on your task unless your partner can't handle it.
And remember guys, being a good lay is one thing, but girls stay with guys who have mastered muff diving.
Dear Sex Doc;
How common are sexual dysfunctions? What's the most common sexual dysfunction for women? For men?
Seeking Dysfunction Data @ UNBSJ
Dear Seeking Dysfunction Data @ UNBSJ;
Sexual problems, generally called sexual dysfunctions or sexual disorders include such things as anorgasmia (the inability for a woman to achieve orgasm), erectile dysfunction (a man's lack of ability to maintain an erection), and dysparunea (painful intercourse). Most sex researchers indicate that about 50 per cent of all long-term couples will encounter a sexual dysfunction at some point.
It is usually assumed that these dysfunctions occur later in life. But, a 1999 study by Laumann, Paik, & Rosen, published in the Journal of the American Medical Association found that 43 per cent of women and 31 per cent of men aged 18 to 59 personally experienced a sexual disorder in the past year.
The most common sexual dysfunctions and their prevalence for women in the 1999 study were: lack of desire (30 per cent), inability to achieve orgasm (25 per cent), trouble lubricating (22 per cent), sex not pleasurable (20 per cent), pain during sex (18 per cent), and anxiety about performance (11 per cent).
The most common sexual dysfunctions and their prevalence for men in the 1999 study were: premature ejaculation (30 per cent), performance anxiety (17 per cent), lowered desire (14 per cent), erectile disorder (11 per cent), delayed ejaculation (8 per cent), and sexual aversion (eight per cent).
I'm not sure if you're just curious SDD or if you think you have a sexual dysfunction, but please keep in mind that they are very common. But, just because your dick or vulva mysteriously stops working one day, does not automatically mean you have a problem.
Remember, the brain is our biggest sex organ. So if you're thinking about bakin' cookies when you're makin' bacon, your most precious organ is probably in hiding.
But, SDD if your genitals do go on strike and a sexual problem persists you should consult with a doctor. If there are no immediate medical issues the doctor will most likely refer you to a therapist who specializes in sexual concerns for treatment.
Dr. Brian Parker is a clinical sexologist and sex educator and the co-creator of two sexual intimacy board games “Embrace” and “Pillow Talk.” The games are available on his website, www.foreverpleasure.com which features original erotic art, high-end sensual products and adult sex education.
This column is made possible by the generous support of O'My Natural Lubricants. If you have a sexual question you want answered in the ‘Ask the Sex Doc' column please email drbrian@foreverpleasure.com and watch for his response in this paper.
Okay, so you gave the girls some pointers for giving us head. What about some advice for us boys who need help going down on our girls? How can my mouth make her scream?
Orally Challenged @ BCIT
Dear Orally Challenged @ BCIT;
I'm sure all the girls reading this question are saying “thank God, finally my guy is gonna know how to get me off. I'm tired of that 60-second, vaginal slobber kiss he calls oral sex!”
So guys, the most important thing to do is to ASK your partner what they like. If your girl is comfortable with her body she's probably figured that out by now. If she hasn't, be her guide and together explore her love tunnel.
Orally Challenged, one of the biggest mistakes you and your buddies make is diving straight for the kitty with no warm up. Girls are not like boys. They take longer to turn on. A strong wind could get you college boys excited.
You should caress her, kiss her neck, blow in her ear, and nibble on the inside of her thigh all before letting your mouth get to that scrumptious meal between her legs. Orally Challenged, you should explore every nook and crevice of her body before you do a face plant in her hot tub.
One of the biggest problems boys have with giving face is that they assume the vagina is a girl's most erogenous zone. WRONG. The first two inches of the vaginal canal is sensitive and erogenous, but most women want your tongue laps a little north.
The clitoris has over 8,000 nerve endings. Boys, think of it as your penis on steroids. That's how powerful this baby is. Girls like their mouse clicked with quick movements of the tongue during oral sex.
Don't spend all your time lapping up her love button. Move your mouthpiece around her entire vulva, from the folds of her lips to her vagina. Lick the vulva upwards and don't be afraid to stick a finger or two inside the vagina to stimulate her G-Spot while you dine at the Y.
Orally Challenged, another really common mistake that you and your buddies make is not using your hands to stimulate your partner's other hot spots while you savour her love juice. Caress her breasts, bum, perineum, and tummy.
You'll probably have to move back up to her clit to make her cum, since around 80 per cent of women orgasm clitorally. And if your girl is about to cum you'd better stay focused on your task unless your partner can't handle it.
And remember guys, being a good lay is one thing, but girls stay with guys who have mastered muff diving.
Dear Sex Doc;
How common are sexual dysfunctions? What's the most common sexual dysfunction for women? For men?
Seeking Dysfunction Data @ UNBSJ
Dear Seeking Dysfunction Data @ UNBSJ;
Sexual problems, generally called sexual dysfunctions or sexual disorders include such things as anorgasmia (the inability for a woman to achieve orgasm), erectile dysfunction (a man's lack of ability to maintain an erection), and dysparunea (painful intercourse). Most sex researchers indicate that about 50 per cent of all long-term couples will encounter a sexual dysfunction at some point.
It is usually assumed that these dysfunctions occur later in life. But, a 1999 study by Laumann, Paik, & Rosen, published in the Journal of the American Medical Association found that 43 per cent of women and 31 per cent of men aged 18 to 59 personally experienced a sexual disorder in the past year.
The most common sexual dysfunctions and their prevalence for women in the 1999 study were: lack of desire (30 per cent), inability to achieve orgasm (25 per cent), trouble lubricating (22 per cent), sex not pleasurable (20 per cent), pain during sex (18 per cent), and anxiety about performance (11 per cent).
The most common sexual dysfunctions and their prevalence for men in the 1999 study were: premature ejaculation (30 per cent), performance anxiety (17 per cent), lowered desire (14 per cent), erectile disorder (11 per cent), delayed ejaculation (8 per cent), and sexual aversion (eight per cent).
I'm not sure if you're just curious SDD or if you think you have a sexual dysfunction, but please keep in mind that they are very common. But, just because your dick or vulva mysteriously stops working one day, does not automatically mean you have a problem.
Remember, the brain is our biggest sex organ. So if you're thinking about bakin' cookies when you're makin' bacon, your most precious organ is probably in hiding.
But, SDD if your genitals do go on strike and a sexual problem persists you should consult with a doctor. If there are no immediate medical issues the doctor will most likely refer you to a therapist who specializes in sexual concerns for treatment.
Dr. Brian Parker is a clinical sexologist and sex educator and the co-creator of two sexual intimacy board games “Embrace” and “Pillow Talk.” The games are available on his website, www.foreverpleasure.com which features original erotic art, high-end sensual products and adult sex education.
This column is made possible by the generous support of O'My Natural Lubricants. If you have a sexual question you want answered in the ‘Ask the Sex Doc' column please email drbrian@foreverpleasure.com and watch for his response in this paper.
