Ask the Sex Doc: Sex Doc exposes orgasm fakers
Dear Sex Doc;
I've got myself into this sex routine with my boyfriend. I've been faking orgasms and I don't know how to stop. Can he tell I'm faking? Do I just tell him? How do I tell him?
F*#kin' Faker at UBCO
Dear F*#kin' Faker at UBCO;
Even though Jenna Jameson would love to teach all you girls how to make love like a porn star, it probably isn't a very good idea.
You see, porn stars fake it too. In fact, almost all of it is just acting. And it isn't just blonde-haired, big boobed, starlets masking grunts and groans. Studies show that about 55 per cent of women occasionally fake orgasms, while 75 per cent of you girls have put on the uh-oh-ah act at least once in your life.
So F*#kin' Faker, you've got yourself into a bit of a pickle. When you ‘act' like a porn star you get lost in your (act)ions and it's pretty tough to cum.
Your brain is your biggest sex organ. If you're constantly trying to up the sex-scream- ante you'll have a hard time attaining the ‘Big O.' Further, you lose touch with your erogenous zones and grow disconnected from your sexuality.
Can he tell? Maybe not. Many guys are too interested in expelling their little soldiers to be concerned about yours. However, I'm just about to bust all you fakers.
Here's how you tell if your girlfriend is having pretend sex on your behalf. When a woman has an orgasm she has contractions every 0.8th of a second that can be felt in her vaginal canal and rectum. A woman typically cums between thirteen to fifty-one seconds. That should give you enough time to feel for true sex contractions.
And FF, the main problem with pretending to have earth-shattering orgasms is that eventually (at least if you ever want to have one again) you have to tell him.
And you do have to tell him. Most guys will take this personally, but it's best to be honest. If he's a dead lay, break it to him gently. Believe it or not, most guys don't know squat about a woman's erogenous zones.
If your partner isn't clicking the mouse in the most opportune fashion you'll just have to TELL him what you like. And, if you can't tell him, SHOW him. Guide his hands over your hot spots and teach him exactly what makes the kitty purr.
Lastly FF and all you sexed up students, it is important to know that people put so much pressure on themselves to perform in bed, that their bedroom antics stop them from having great sex.
Stop faking, stop focusing on having orgasms, and just enjoy the pleasurable sensations your body is feeling. You'll cum a whole lot easier that way.
Dear Sex Doc;
I'm 18 and I just started seeing this girl. Oh, I'm a virgin too. My problem is that I'm shy about the size of my penis. When it is soft it is only about two-inches long, but hard it is about six-inches long. I'm embarrassed for her to see my penis soft? What should I do?
Shy Fella @ UNBSJ
Dear Shy Fella @ UNBSJ;
You're eighteen buddy! Chances are your dick isn't soft all that often. But, just so you know, you are completely normal.
In fact, you're not alone. Studies show that men's biggest issues with their genitals is the size of their soft one. Guess cause no one can really tell how big it gets.
The average size of a limp willy is about 3.5 inches. So, you're a little smaller, but it really isn't a big deal.
Have you ever heard of growers and showers? Experts say that the erection is the great equalizer. You, my friend, are a grower. Your penis grows from two inches limp to six inches when hard.
Guys with bigger limp dicks are showers. Their penis might be five inches limp, but when hard it most likely around six inches too. Just like ‘you can't judge a book by its cover,' you can't judge a limp penis, you never know how big it can get when aroused.
By the way Shy Grower, 90 per cent of men have an erect schlong between five and seven inches. So you are right in the middle.
Your new girlfriend will most likely love your little fella. Guys put way too much pressure on themselves to have a foot long. Probably cause every guy out there lies about the length of their ding-a-ling.
Dr. Brian Parker is a clinical sexologist and sex educator and the co-creator of two sexual intimacy board games “Embrace” and “Pillow Talk.” The games are available on his website, www.foreverpleasure.com which features original erotic art, high-end sensual products and adult sex education.
This column is made possible by the generous support of O'My Natural Lubricants. If you have a sexual question you want answered in the ‘Ask the Sex Doc' column please email drbrian@foreverpleasure.com and watch for his response in this paper.
I've got myself into this sex routine with my boyfriend. I've been faking orgasms and I don't know how to stop. Can he tell I'm faking? Do I just tell him? How do I tell him?
F*#kin' Faker at UBCO
Dear F*#kin' Faker at UBCO;
Even though Jenna Jameson would love to teach all you girls how to make love like a porn star, it probably isn't a very good idea.
You see, porn stars fake it too. In fact, almost all of it is just acting. And it isn't just blonde-haired, big boobed, starlets masking grunts and groans. Studies show that about 55 per cent of women occasionally fake orgasms, while 75 per cent of you girls have put on the uh-oh-ah act at least once in your life.
So F*#kin' Faker, you've got yourself into a bit of a pickle. When you ‘act' like a porn star you get lost in your (act)ions and it's pretty tough to cum.
Your brain is your biggest sex organ. If you're constantly trying to up the sex-scream- ante you'll have a hard time attaining the ‘Big O.' Further, you lose touch with your erogenous zones and grow disconnected from your sexuality.
Can he tell? Maybe not. Many guys are too interested in expelling their little soldiers to be concerned about yours. However, I'm just about to bust all you fakers.
Here's how you tell if your girlfriend is having pretend sex on your behalf. When a woman has an orgasm she has contractions every 0.8th of a second that can be felt in her vaginal canal and rectum. A woman typically cums between thirteen to fifty-one seconds. That should give you enough time to feel for true sex contractions.
And FF, the main problem with pretending to have earth-shattering orgasms is that eventually (at least if you ever want to have one again) you have to tell him.
And you do have to tell him. Most guys will take this personally, but it's best to be honest. If he's a dead lay, break it to him gently. Believe it or not, most guys don't know squat about a woman's erogenous zones.
If your partner isn't clicking the mouse in the most opportune fashion you'll just have to TELL him what you like. And, if you can't tell him, SHOW him. Guide his hands over your hot spots and teach him exactly what makes the kitty purr.
Lastly FF and all you sexed up students, it is important to know that people put so much pressure on themselves to perform in bed, that their bedroom antics stop them from having great sex.
Stop faking, stop focusing on having orgasms, and just enjoy the pleasurable sensations your body is feeling. You'll cum a whole lot easier that way.
Dear Sex Doc;
I'm 18 and I just started seeing this girl. Oh, I'm a virgin too. My problem is that I'm shy about the size of my penis. When it is soft it is only about two-inches long, but hard it is about six-inches long. I'm embarrassed for her to see my penis soft? What should I do?
Shy Fella @ UNBSJ
Dear Shy Fella @ UNBSJ;
You're eighteen buddy! Chances are your dick isn't soft all that often. But, just so you know, you are completely normal.
In fact, you're not alone. Studies show that men's biggest issues with their genitals is the size of their soft one. Guess cause no one can really tell how big it gets.
The average size of a limp willy is about 3.5 inches. So, you're a little smaller, but it really isn't a big deal.
Have you ever heard of growers and showers? Experts say that the erection is the great equalizer. You, my friend, are a grower. Your penis grows from two inches limp to six inches when hard.
Guys with bigger limp dicks are showers. Their penis might be five inches limp, but when hard it most likely around six inches too. Just like ‘you can't judge a book by its cover,' you can't judge a limp penis, you never know how big it can get when aroused.
By the way Shy Grower, 90 per cent of men have an erect schlong between five and seven inches. So you are right in the middle.
Your new girlfriend will most likely love your little fella. Guys put way too much pressure on themselves to have a foot long. Probably cause every guy out there lies about the length of their ding-a-ling.
Dr. Brian Parker is a clinical sexologist and sex educator and the co-creator of two sexual intimacy board games “Embrace” and “Pillow Talk.” The games are available on his website, www.foreverpleasure.com which features original erotic art, high-end sensual products and adult sex education.
This column is made possible by the generous support of O'My Natural Lubricants. If you have a sexual question you want answered in the ‘Ask the Sex Doc' column please email drbrian@foreverpleasure.com and watch for his response in this paper.
