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The awesome truth about female orgasms

Mysterious and denied, female orgasms have baffled men and women throughout the ages. From being used as a medical treatment of hysteria – which was an old-time way of saying anything relating to a woman who wasn’t acting perfectly – to being completely ignored, education on female orgasms is rarely seen.

The fact is, general estimates of the number of women who have orgasms sit around 30 per cent, while statistics of those who can and do ejaculate during orgasm are even harder to find. Much of this is believed to be due to a lack of comfort with the concept, fewer instances of female sexual exploration, and societal stigmas relating to female sexuality.

As long as women are uncomfortable discussing their bodies and figuring out how they work, many of them will continue to be much less satisfied than they could be.

For most women, orgasms are generally achieved by stimulation of and around the clitoris. While most people think of the clitoris only imagine the small, sensitive external nub – located under the clitoral hood, about two to three inches above the vaginal opening – the truth is that the organ itself is much larger, reaching down along the sides of the vagina.

The external part of the clitoris is often extremely sensitive and some women can only stand light or non-direct contact, in which case rubbing through the clitoral hood and along the sides of the labia may be more enjoyable. Just like the penis, the external part of the clitoris becomes even more sensitive after orgasm and even women who can have multiple orgasms will likely want an even lighter touch.

There is much debate in the scientific community about vaginal orgasms, as it can be hard to tell how many are caused by rubbing against the clitoris during intercourse, or if the penis is rubbing against the deeper internal structure of the organ. The G-spot, another much debated phenomenon, is often attributed to this internal structure, although orgasms achieved this way may feel very different.

While the clitoris is often the key to orgasms, women have reported achieving orgasm from all sorts of other areas, including stimulation of the breasts, anus and even through thought alone. A woman’s body is a wondrous thing and exploration is the key to success.

It’s impossible to talk about female orgasms without talking about ejaculation, also known as squirting or the Nectar of Venus. This is a fluid similar to male ejaculatory fluid (sans-semen), and although the sensation can be similar to needing to pee, it is not urine. The amount can be quite a lot and the stream can be rather forceful, so laying down a towel may be a good idea.

While orgasms and ejaculation can be amazing and extremely pleasurable, it’s important to remember that getting overly focused on the last intense minute can prevent it from happening.

The best orgasms are often achieved through enhanced intimacy and exploration. After all, the journey can be just as fun as the destination.