Kinks: What they are and what they aren't
The word “kink” is in most people’s verbal dictionaries.
Kinks are usually described as a turn on that isn’t
necessarily a fetish but some kinks do borderline on
that form of attraction.
Do you have a kink? If so, it is not something to be afraid of but it is completely understandable if you are as our society generally frowns upon more sexually vibrant lifestyles. Even more so, describing the topic of kinks and fetishes makes people feel borderline uncomfortable if they have never been exposed to di erent sexual lifestyles.
Distinguishing between a kink and a fetish is important. While neither I would argue is morally unjust, they have di erent implications. A kink can be a de nitive line that bu ers between enhancing one’s sexual experience and replacing it with a fetish. The line get’s blurry however when the concept of “normal” sex gets put into play.
On the topic of fetishes, what do those entail? Usually, fetishes are described as being attracted to a speci fic object or situation. This could be a wide range of things and pretty much any situation you can imagine has some sort of name for it.
Without diving into the details of each fetish, it becomes apparent after reading about them that these are not isolated feelings rather practices engaged by consenting partners. Consenting is a very important factor for people who engage in these practices and the BDSM community has a motto of “Safe, Sane, and Consensual” when they discuss the topic.
For many couples or groups that participate in what are known as “scenes” or “sessions,” they will use a safe word or some sort of indication to allow their partner to communicate e ectively without being put in an uncomfortable position.
Despite the adherence to consent, there are some fetishes and attractions that obviously push those boundaries and managing them becomes a challenge for the individual.
On August 11, the website Medium.com posted an article by Luke Malone about an anonymous 16-year-old paedophile who was concerned that he would harm somebody later in life. It’s an article that is very hard to read but gives an educated look into what creates sex o enders and how we can possibly prevent those measures earlier on.
It’s important to recognize that because being attracted to something is so broad, it is going to encompass more grotesque attractions like paedophilia but that does not make up the majority of people who enjoy kinks and alternative sexual lifestyles.
As a part of our ever-growing understanding of sexual practices and our inner desires, it is important to recognize lifestyles that di er from ours.
As stated above, not all fetishes or kinks are despicable acts of non-consensual violence. They make up a part of our human condition and for some who live within a sex-based sub-culture, they are an essential part of that person’s life choices and represent the ability to be truly autonomous and unique individuals.
Do you have a kink? If so, it is not something to be afraid of but it is completely understandable if you are as our society generally frowns upon more sexually vibrant lifestyles. Even more so, describing the topic of kinks and fetishes makes people feel borderline uncomfortable if they have never been exposed to di erent sexual lifestyles.
Distinguishing between a kink and a fetish is important. While neither I would argue is morally unjust, they have di erent implications. A kink can be a de nitive line that bu ers between enhancing one’s sexual experience and replacing it with a fetish. The line get’s blurry however when the concept of “normal” sex gets put into play.
On the topic of fetishes, what do those entail? Usually, fetishes are described as being attracted to a speci fic object or situation. This could be a wide range of things and pretty much any situation you can imagine has some sort of name for it.
Without diving into the details of each fetish, it becomes apparent after reading about them that these are not isolated feelings rather practices engaged by consenting partners. Consenting is a very important factor for people who engage in these practices and the BDSM community has a motto of “Safe, Sane, and Consensual” when they discuss the topic.
For many couples or groups that participate in what are known as “scenes” or “sessions,” they will use a safe word or some sort of indication to allow their partner to communicate e ectively without being put in an uncomfortable position.
Despite the adherence to consent, there are some fetishes and attractions that obviously push those boundaries and managing them becomes a challenge for the individual.
On August 11, the website Medium.com posted an article by Luke Malone about an anonymous 16-year-old paedophile who was concerned that he would harm somebody later in life. It’s an article that is very hard to read but gives an educated look into what creates sex o enders and how we can possibly prevent those measures earlier on.
It’s important to recognize that because being attracted to something is so broad, it is going to encompass more grotesque attractions like paedophilia but that does not make up the majority of people who enjoy kinks and alternative sexual lifestyles.
As a part of our ever-growing understanding of sexual practices and our inner desires, it is important to recognize lifestyles that di er from ours.
As stated above, not all fetishes or kinks are despicable acts of non-consensual violence. They make up a part of our human condition and for some who live within a sex-based sub-culture, they are an essential part of that person’s life choices and represent the ability to be truly autonomous and unique individuals.
